Why I deleted Snapchat and other attempts to save my soul.
Why I deleted Snapchat and other attempts to save my soul.
As many of you will know, living on my own has been a very big dream of mine. And it’s finally one that’s becoming a reality.
I grew up with a sibling in shared spaces, moved into a res during varsity with 300-and-something other girls, shared a small flat with my best friend, lived with locals in India and enjoyed a glorified “working class digs”. I’ve loved each and every experience but my inner independence has always wanted a space to call my own.
Decor has always been a big deal to me. Growing up, I asked for bedroom things come birthday time – completely submersing myself in different themes. Dolphin-esque, faerie clad, African Safari, Boho Chic – you name it. Over the last 7 years all my living spaces have been shared and temporary in between the studies and travel, and I’ve had to relinquish my passion for decorating my breathing space. This is why I so badly needed my own spot – to call the shots and be the master of my own ship. Something to decorate with my “hippiehendrix” style – a little bit eclectic, a little bit rock ‘n roll!
I’ll finally have my own time and space to journal and paint and dance around nekkid! A place that I pay for, that I made happen after months and months of searching and planning. My own little Jenna Kelly milestone. Because the gap closes in life when you get to do this flying-solo-thing.
I pretty much can’t sleep at night planning my little spot, so I thought I’d share some of my design inspiration. I will probably be sitting on the floor and eating off paper plates for a good while, but a girl can dream (some more).
Leafy plants that don’t die
A visual guide on taking back my life, decluttering the bullshit and making room for breathing space.
Maybe you need it too.
It’s all about perspective. I need to try to not sweat the small stuff and learn to savour each wonderful moment.
Some things can simply not be changed. I am a firm believer in playing the cards that you’re dealt instead of lamenting over a situation that you have no control over!
People let you down, work gets cray, you get debited twice for your Virgin Active account. Big or small, shit happens. But chin up, move forward and get over it.
I am officially removing myself out of people politics. Cancel my subscription and all that!
I have a habit of getting too invested in other people’s issues. From friends to family, I am the go-to for advice. Which is cool, in proportionate quantities. Just every so often it creates a doormat sign on my forehead. I have been neglecting my own needs and thoughts for too long to help others and I need to do my best, to create a little distance at times. Let’s be honest, I could never be badass enough to not care at all. We all get by with a little help from our friends.
In trying times, remain Grace Kelly-esque and deal with it accordingly.
Head down, prioritise well and hustle for the life you want.
Need I say more?
No, sometimes there is reason to say no. Sometimes I need to go with the ebb and flow of life without overanalysing every situation and other times I need to be firm, stand my ground and say AH HELL NAH!
Get back to basics. Everything else is just noise.
Be a man. Rub some dirt in it. Every situation is temporary.
In simplicity we trust. Forever and ever amen.
One of my best friends finally ties the knot this weekend so I thought I’d post some pics and tips from her bachelorettes as build up to the big day!
Don’t say I don’t spoil you now…
Kris and her fiancees first date was to watch Rugrats in Paris (bless) and their proposal happened in front of the glistening Eiffel Tower – so the other bridesmaids and I decided to run with this classic Parisian theme. The girls did a great job ordering cuppies, buying copious amounts of champagne and handcrafting the decor – it seriously all paid off. Holla if you ever need event planners!
1. Pinterest, Pinterest, Pinterest – just not when your boss is looking.
2. Never underestimate the decorative power of a good old-fashioned doily. Yes those words just came out of my mouth.
3. Theme your music – Edith Piaf really got us in the Parisian spirit.
4. Vovo Telo make for mean caterers if you ask them nicely.
5. Fairy lights make everything pretty – even that bare wall with drill marks in it.
6. A simple shot of Pimms mixed with lemonade, poured into individual bottles, is an easy and fun welcome drink.
7. China Mall and Everlastings velly good plice! Just be patient and sift through the kitsch crap.
8. Budget for gift bags – some girly paraphernalia and a feather boa made sure that every guest was part of the theme!
9. Use your resources – friends to bake, moms to flower arrange, boyfriends to lift “heavy tables”.
10. Plan your after party for somewhere no-one you know frequents so that you can all let loose. We went to… gulp… Tiger Tiger. I know right.
My current criteria/ thought process for getting dressed:
( A little trivial fashion blogging to get ya’ll through Hump Day.)
2. Would Nicole Richie wear this?
3. Dress like you’re going to a music festival today!
4. Is it cold enough to warrant a beanie? If not wear a dramatic hat. Or a snap-back.
5. Mixed textures. Especially leather-look and feathers.
6. Could I potentially be in a hip-hop video in this outfit? Or at least featured on Hype Beast?
7. I’m not a brands person per se… but NIKE.
8. Swap whatever shoes i’m wearing for sneakers, and the outfit will always look better. Kick game must be strong at all times.
9. Linear, geometric, clean accessories like perspex earrings or my black Swatch watch FTFW.
10. Lipstick. Wear it. Wear it BOLD! And put on something camo while you’re at it.
11. Does is have tassles? Could I wear this on the cover of Rolling Stone?
12. When in doubt – maxi skirt!
13. Fuck it. I have nothing to wear. I’m leaving in slops and jeans.
This new plastic trend brings about a widely felt sense of openness,accountability and transparency, much like our Constitution was mean’t do.But didn’t.
While I am not actually sure if the plastic-chic trend creates an honest and open environment in fashion beyond letting everyone see exactly what you’re packing, I do know that for some strange reason, I dig it.
Considering that this trend is rather preppy and chic, it should not be on my radar as someone who likes to dress as though I am attending a never-ending music festival. But something about it’s mod,clean cut and extra-terrestrial allure has got me tuned in.
Granted, having a transparent handbag would never work for some-one like me ( messy and against the practice of almost any sort of minimalism),but I can still look at pictures and imagine a time when we can all wear plastic bra’s and panties outside of Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines music video.
The plastic fantastic trend gets even better with the addition of some trippy holographic print.
What’s your verdict?
Click the pic to see more of ELLE’s favourite shoe trend choices, that debuted at NY Fashion Week.
All photos by me.
Images from Pinterest.
Some of my recent Pinterest musings.